Undoing the Ego

In this post I share a simple 10 minute meditation that leads to letting go of the ego's fear and anxiety grips to create from love.

We are all familiar with our egos even if we don't realize it. The voice that keeps us unhappy by reminding us what someone did to us yesterday. The voice within that tells us we'll never have this or be that. The voice that reminds us we are already behind on something even if we haven't started. Your stories may be different, but we all have them. The voice of the ego! For whatever reason, it wants to keep us separate and in turn, separate from the love within.

When we identify with the ego we identify with a whole host of other "problems". We feel like something is missing in life and the present moment. We have relationships that feel less than par and we get upset about everything happening in the world. But what if this voice, this part that seems like us... well, isn't? What would that mean? This can bring up feelings of fear. Like maybe we wouldn't have anything and we'd sink into a deep dark depression. Or if we didn't have our egos we would be directionless.

In reality when we start doing inner work by looking at our egos, we start actually being happy. What if we didn't have all of those thoughts? We would be free. It's not that we wouldn't be anything if we gave up our egos, it's that we would be able to flow more with life. We would be able to make choices for the highest good in different situations. We would be able to enjoy the present moment!

If we start doing this inner work of looking at our egos, it's not easy. We are giving up something that has felt like a part of us for a VERY LONG TIME. And suddenly we're deciding we don't want it anymore. But there comes a time when the itch to see what complete freedom is like becomes too intriguing and it calls to us.

There are as many people on this earth as there are paths. They all reach the truth within us. That truth is that we are the source of our own joy, happiness, and abundance! 

If you are ready to start undoing the ego then here is a 10 minute meditation that leads to freedom. Yes, there are so many types of meditation. This type allows you to start identifying with the witnessing part of yourself and less with your ego. If you sit with yourself and watch your thoughts come up without doing anything, just observing and asking your inner wisdom to look non-objectively  then your'e meditating. Whatever the thoughts are like, good or bad, just let them be. No fixing. You don't need to be fixed. We realize we are not those thoughts! We are beyond them. Just try this for 10 minutes in the morning and if you can, 10 minutes at night. It's also helpful to bring this noticing into your daily life. As the ego starts to take a back seat, we are able to start receiving intuitive guidance and our lives naturally change. No need to achieve, let go of that idea. Just being more in the space of letting life unfold. When you get out of this practice, don't beat yourself up, just come back. Again and again. If you notice things get worse before they get better than you are right on track. Our egos don't like being messed with and a lot can get stirred up. Just keep observing kindly and watch things keep shifting. 

Healing Our Relationships

Are you ready for more intimacy and less disconnection in your relationships? I share how I got real about taking responsibility for the amount of love I pour into the relationship with my mom. Read to the end for an affirmation to create a permanent shift.

The reality is each of us has the power to create big change in our lives. Any situation that feels like it’s in conflict, or in a pattern of who’s right and who’s wrong can be changed. The way we see people and experience them can change. This is true power. We’re no longer stuck in a place of the world being done to us, we are the creators of our experience. This is what can shift relationships, bringing about more love.

A Course In Miracles tells us we are at the cause, not the effect, of our experiences and our life. If we are at the cause, then how we experience people and our circumstances is huge. We are no longer a victim in situations, we have the power to transform our relationships.

After I started doing this work and coming back to training my mind to see situations differently, I really wanted to work on the relationship I had with my mom. There were times we butted heads and I wanted greater connection. 

I knew I had to let go of my smallness, of wanting to control outcomes, seek out approval and instead, celebrate the life that wanted to work it’s way into my experience.

I started doing deeper inner work- letting go of situations that felt like I was experiencing lack to tune into a deeper love within myself. This process allowed me to fully live the idea that we don’t need to change each other. It’s also possible to speak your truth and let go of controlling outcomes at the same time. For example, it can be so powerful to share where we are coming from and speak our fears out loud. I had a big fear of not feeling accepted and shared that with my mom.

Our minds will tell us if we share our fears we may not get love or we might feel rejection. But the truth is when we share our fears, they start disappearing. When I shared my fear with my mom, we had the chance to talk about it and really see each other. It created more intimacy, not less. It can be so powerful to share our fears with each other and dissolve the feelings of separation in relationships. 

After I did this inner work I started to see my perspective of my mom shift. I really enjoy talking with my mom, spending time with her, and appreciating who she is even more now. There are characteristics that stand out and make me love her in new ways. The inner work I did and the tools I used got me to this place.

If you’re wanting to transform your own relationships, then try this tool. You can use this with people at work, your loved ones, or random people who push your buttons! I use this if my mind is caught in conflict and helps me see people for who they really are. This tip comes from a Course teacher Maria Felipe and it works so well! Gently in your mind say to the other person when you're wanting to see them in a new light, “I bless you, I love you”.

The way you see them just might start to change and with it, the outcome of your situations.

How Food Has Been A Tool To Help Me Heal Grief

In this post I talk about my experience using Medical Medium as a new foundation for living while healing grief.

Around Thanksgiving in 2017 my dad passed on from Leukemia. I say passed on because I don't believe we pass away and can be separate from each other. When he passed, I got two styes and my body was incredibly exhausted. Grief books I read mention that people who grieve need to nurse their bodies back to health similarly like people who are very sick or those who heal from post operation. I related to this because I noticed my body continuing to get sick and have low energy- my sinus infections were in full swing constantly.

Between loved one's cooked meals I ordered pizza, pasta, and anything that could be delivered. When I started getting the energy to cook for myself in spring I wanted to start putting thoughtful energy into my life again. Over the summer I made the firm decision for myself to find an eating style that would not only nourish me, but also give me a new zest and excitement for life. I wanted to live life to the fullest. That's when I started paying more attention to the Medical Medium posts that kept popping up on my Instagram. People were raving about new energy and healing specific ailments. I realized I had every symptom on the EBV list on Medical Medium's website. So I set out to give it a try. Below I share my experience with this eating style after doing the 28 Day Cleanse.

What's this new eating style? Is it another fad diet?

Basically if you do the 28 day cleanse you are eating raw plant based for 28 days to give your body the nutrients it needs to heal from any heavy metals and viruses. After that, there are some really yummy recipes that are cooked plant based meals you can incorporate. 

The main foods I consumed almost daily were:

Wild blueberries

Bananas

Spinach

Cilantro

Garlic

Celery

Mango

Tomato

Dates

Oranges

All of these foods and more helped me start healing. I could feel it. By eating this way it allows your body to start cleaning out any heavy metals that have obstructed brain and body function. It also starts getting rid of different viruses that may be dormant and helps your body run more smoothly.

Also please note I stuck to this almost entirely, but a few times I had meat and a glass of wine but mainly eating raw plant based is what I stuck to.

Ok but what were the results? And how were you not hungry eating meat?!

I ate a TON of fruits and veg. Any time I needed a snack I grabbed a piece of fruit. Eating this way made me feel so satisfied, not like I was missing out on anything or always hungry. Yes, there were times I wanted to throw my salad against the wall and cry but I kept going in hopes of healing. I'm really glad I kept going because my brain fog started disappearing, my overall mood started to get more balanced, and my mystery stomach bloat disappeared. My sinus symptoms also went away.

I am still healing some fatigue symptoms and brain fog and am glad for what I was able to experience initially. When things got tough one of my friends mentioned one day, "Hey... you're almost half way done and then it's downhill from there!" When I got impatient, I remembered why I started and that helped me make it through.

So are you back to pizza and pasta? What's next?

I am still eating this way for the most part to experience long term effects and still have some time to heal. But now, when I want pasta I make zucchini noodles with red sauce on top. When I want pizza I make it from cauliflower and almond flour base with red sauce, spinach, tomatoes, and cashew sauce on top! Incredibly satisfying. When I want good food I eat it- just with a twist. But for the most part I'm eating raw foods to help me keep healing. Some days it's hard and I don't want to do it. But I look at my progress and other inspiring Instagram accounts to help me stay motivated. The foods I eat now satisfy me and my body feels like it's healing. I'll take that win-win.